Loss and Gain
November 19th, 2009
One month ago today my father died. An amazing number of people reached out to me with great kindness. This is not a discussion of the death of a loved one, rather a sharing of my discovery of love and support from those who care.
As condolence after sympathy after loving wish came in to me I began to feel them weaving together into a fabric that folded around me. This cloak of love became an insulation providing me time and space for my grief. It was a wonderful experience that truly helped me with the process.
Of course I could not have had this experience without telling some people about his death. I needed to allow people to know, to be open and vulnerable to that extent in order to receive their caring.
I am reminded of Abbey Lincoln’s song “Throw It Away”. “Throw it away. Give your life, give your love each and every day. Keep your hand wide open, let the sunshine through. You can never lose a thing if it belongs to you.”
I have greater appreciation than ever for the love and generosity of my friends. And deep gratitude. I responded to each kindness I received to complete the circle of love.
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